Now that's a nice bulge! Good boy :) 

Today I want to talk about what makes a great love scene. I am not only talking about porn here, but in books, too! After all, I have read many, many books where the love is...well...boring. Yes, even in m/m the sex scenes tend to become formulaic. You know the ones: get undressed, kiss, suck, one finger, two finger...wham bam! I think you all know what I'm talking about, especially if you are a regular reader of erotica (m/m and otherwise). Reading scene after scene, book after book of this sort of thing gets a big yawn from me.

A lot of writers forget the old adage, variety is the spice of life. No, I am not talking about adding stuff in that most couples would never engage in (threesomes,  heavy BDSM, humiliation etc, etc). I am talking about the variety of 'normal' healthy interactions between two people who are into each other. 

So kissing is important, yes. There is more to kissing than: they touched lips. Kissing, after all is the one of the most sensual aspects of being with someone else. How does the character feel? What type of kiss? Also, especially in m/m, mix up the dominant role a little...or in other words the instigator and conqueror when it comes to kissing. A lot of people like to be swept away by a passionate kiss, big furry bears included :)   



Foreplay is also important. This doesn't just have to include cock sucking. There are many, many other parts on the body which can be equally erogenous. Nape of the neck, nipples, buttocks, etc etc. Also, cock sucking doesn't need to be limited to: taking it into the mouth. There can be masturbation, foreskin play (if you have intact character/s), ball play, humming, licking...the list goes on. Again, add variety here.  



Kissing DURING sex is a major turn on and adds that something special into any scene. A gentle kiss on the shoulder is a good one. A lot of authors forget about the continual need for people to kiss while they make love. Remember, once the cock is in the hole, kissing still counts.



Different positions are a must. You may have your characters in the bedroom, but that doesn't mean they all lay there like dead starfish. Try getting your characters to engage each other in a variety of positions: missionary and doggy-style are just the start. There are so many more. Also, have your characters take turns 'making love' if the story allows. That will make for interesting reading, especially if that waif-like twink is getting his end wet inside a Daddy bear. Oh my!   



Expressions and emotions and feelings are all important. How does the character react to being made love to? Does the pleasure outweigh the pain? Does his prostate get stimulated in a certain position more than others? Do his balls tighten close to climax? Does he hunger for a different tempo? Like it slow? Like to be hammered? All these will help you enhance your scene so you're not just writing: Jason entered Bill and they made love....*snore* 



The work of the top (pitcher) is just as important as the work of the bottom (catcher) Together they make a complete whole when it comes to love making. Sure, one is entering the other, but where does the power lie? The bottom isn't just a 'weak' character who likes to take it. In a way, he's in control. Think about that.



When it comes time for your characters to blow their loads, mix it up too. Nothing worse than: and then he came. Sure, we know the mechanics of ejaculate leaving a cock, but what about the rest of it? That moment when wild horses couldn't separate a couple. That moment of blindness. Also, what about the other character? Was he waiting for the top to blow? Did he blow a long time ago in the scene because he couldn't hold back? Do they blow together? Does the top blow inside the bottom (I am not including condom use here) or does he pull out to 'do it' over his partners back/stomach/face? Again, here the list is endless. 

Also, consider that there may not need to be any anal sex at all. You could just have your characters engage in foreplay, then share ejaculate (snowballing) or some other form or activity to express their deep feelings for one another. The golden rule is variety, especially for scenes within the same book. Remember that and you can't go wrong.